Today, I chose to be too much.
(And if we're being honest, it's how I usually choose to be).
Here's what I mean:
By the time you read this (if it’s Friday July 30, 2021), I’ll be getting ready for my going away party here in Berlin *cue cries and screams*.
If you’re reading this afterwards, Imma just go ahead and tell you that it was PAWPIN’!
But let me be clear - it’s not just any going away party.
I’m talking about a boat full of melanated folks wearing all white, drinking glasses of wine, and dancing until the sun goes down. What a dream.
Now, you may be wondering why I didn’t have a “normal” party – like maybe a cookout at a park (which I considered for simplicity) or a house party where I voluntarily irritate all of my neighbors (oh the dream). Which I could’ve easily done because it would’ve saved me hundreds of dollars, some of my sanity, and hours of planning.
But where’s the fun in that? I live for insanity.
The answer is simple though to why I didn’t have a “normal” party: Because I didn’t want to.
I know. Groundbreaking.
Life is too short to be “normal” in every aspect of life (I’m actually far from normal, btw). To do things that “everyone else would do.” I wasn’t put on this earth to be like everyone else – I was put here to stand out and cause chaos (which I do on a regular basis).
More often than not, we let people keep us in a box. And in this box we don't allow ourselves to "be too much" and stand out. We let them control how we act because we want to fit in and impress people that honestly don't deserve the shirt off our backs.
Just like people wake up every day and choose violence, I wake up every day and choose being too much(...and sometimes violence too tbh).
So if I want to have dramatic boat parties with loud music and laughs, dressing like the wealthy woman that I plan on becoming – then that’s exactly what I’ll do.
And lucky for me, I have friends who encourage me to do so.
The same goes for you.
Whatever you need to do in order to start feeling like the person you want to be – whether that’s having dramatic boat parties, wearing loud outfits, dropping that friends who's always a negative Nancy, or buying those pair of Louboutin’s that you’ve been eyeing for months – do it. Because you should. Because you can.
Do what you need to do in order to get where you want to be - Whatever that looks like for you.
Don’t worry about what other people are going to think or say. It’s about time that you stop worrying about the opinions of people who don’t pay your bills. You won’t please everyone and everyone won’t like you.
And sis if everyone does, you’re doing something wrong.
So what’s it gonna be: living your life under the opinions of other people because you’re afraid of “being too much” and in the end being miserable or – hear me out – living your life with the purpose of being too much and having dramatic boat parties?
I choose the latter.
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