When you just can't get out of bed

Oct 29, 2021
style, fashion, style worthy club, online membership, get out of bed, energy, motivation, reverse culture shock, styling, stylist, confidence, depression, neiman marcus, dallas

“I knew I just had to meet with you. I can tell you know what you’re doing...Thank you for asking the right questions...for actually caring to get to know me.”


The number one thing I’d been struggling with for the past month. 

Following closely behind was energy and motivation.

I was so unmotivated - to the point where it was so hard for me to get out of bed in the morning to go to work and do the important things I wanted and needed to do.

Some may call it depression. Some may call it lack of inspiration or a road block. I call it reverse culture shock (and maybe a mixture of the last two).

For a quick backstory, here’s how I got to this point.

If you don't know already, I lived in Berlin for 2 years (2019-2021). There I worked for an NGO while also styling music videos for local artists, editorials (peep them here), and photoshoots. I got back in the States August 1 - with a job and an apartment set up before I even hit U.S soil - and hit the ground running and moved to Dallas two weeks later.

With a new job as a Client Advisor at Neiman Marcus and an apartment in my name, I felt like my life had started - and I was excited. I was motivated. I was ready to launch my online membership while also balancing my full-time job.

I knew it was finally time to bring my dreams into reality and stop sabotaging myself by putting it off.

Just as I was about to bite the bullet and launch, reverse culture shock hit, as well as the negative effects of transitioning back to American culture: struggling to stay focused, energized, and motivated, getting out of bed, and feeling out of place.

I had to step back.

But she didn’t know that when she reached out to me, letting me know that she needed help with her style.

Let's backup.

Earlier this week, I got coffee with a woman I'd met at my job. I helped her shop for a brunch she had a couple of months ago.

I loved helping her and we vibed immediately, so I was excited when she wanted to meet up.

After meeting with her for over an hour and hearing her words, I realized that I was being selfish and unfair to her -  and to you. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for being selfish when it comes to the important things - like taking care of yourself, etc. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.

But I’m talking about being selfish because here I was with this gift - this service that I want to offer you and have yet to release into the world. I’m holding on to a service that can help other people reach where they want to go style, confidence, and community-wise.

Sometimes you need people to point out things in you that you have yet to see in yourself. Sometimes you need people to call you out and light a fire under your ass.

And she did exactly that.

She reminded me what Style Worthy Club would be all about. That even though there are thousands of stylists out there, no one is going to do it like me.

And whatever gift you have, remember that no one is going to do it like you. Remember to give yourself grace when things get hard.

So here I am finally able to get out of the bed. Letting you know that SWC will officially be here November 21, my 26th birthday and I’d love to see you there. Join my email list and keep your eyes peeled! I look forward to seeing you there.

P.S. If I can get out of bed, so can you. It doesn't end here.

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